Have two relationships, one in game and one in real life. Is this cheating?

[tankofinsanity]

First of all I would like all the ladies and gentlemen visiting this thread to reply in a non-offensive manner =]

now, if you have two relationships in real life, this will definitely be considered cheating (at least I hope)

however many players I know, which I will never name and carry the secret to my grave, consider having two relationships ok

if one is in-game and another is in real life

since one is in real life, and another is between two fictional characters only existing in game

so ya, sound out your opinion

and if you would like to keep your anonymity, just vote in the poll

and if you would REALLY like to keep your anonymity and post a reply, please consider making a new forum name and reply here. I am not responsible for the destruction of your reputation.

and I know what you are thinking, I am not cheating on anyone >___>
currently single in real life and in game by choice (relationship is a hassle), just very bored and want some chit-chat

CL has my permission to close the thread if this thread gets out of hand

[thrakx]

well do you tell your real life GF/BF about the thing you have going in game? Also if you significant real life other started playing SoS would he/she be upset by whats going on? I think thats the real question. if no, then its prolly not cheating. If yes then you are prolly crossing some real life lines, depending on how you would react to said other starting gaming with you cause if you cant say it in front of them then its prolly not kewl.

[Daft_Brat]

Sorry but I'm the type that is completely faithful and true to the person I'm dating. I don't feel that if you're in a relationship with someone you should be in another with someone else, whether it be in a game and 'fake' or not. Anyway, that's where the yes vote came from.

[tankofinsanity]

well do you tell your real life GF/BF about the thing you have going in game? Also if you significant real life other started playing SoS would he/she be upset by whats going on? I think thats the real question. if no, then its prolly not cheating. If yes then you are prolly crossing some real life lines, depending on how you would react to said other starting gaming with you cause if you cant say it in front of them then its prolly not kewl.


If you have a relationship in real life and you and your other half decide that you having a relationship with someone else in game is kosher, then it's kosher! (Think about this in terms of those "open" relationships some have in real life.) Obviously, I highly recommend discussing this with your significant other just to eliminate the chance for miscommunication that usually sends relationships spiraling out of the sky in flames.


I have a hard time believing any relationship can be comfortable with this duo relashionship

but that's just the old-fashion, out-of-date value me

young people these days can do crazy things

*start chasing after random teenagers waving my walking stick and shaking my fist

[ggBuRNe]

IMO, I do think it is cheating by having two relationship at one time (one is in game).. You are playing with other people's feeling and you wouldn't know how much they love you.. Maybe you feel it's just a game but still the one who play the game is a human and has feeling or so..

[BloodLimit]

It's considered cheating, those are real people behind the computer screen. If you mention this to your real life girlfriend, she might get hurt since you "might" spend more time in the game than your RL girlfriend just because its a normal hobby of yours.

[bobalitos]

i think it is cheating. D:
a relationship is a relationship, no matter the context.
that pixel that you call your significant other has feelings too and it is not right that you mess with that.

im not saying you cant do it, just make sure it is ok to both of them. OR just dont get caught LOL

[foxofshadows337]

im not sure buddy........but who would u chose ur rl or ur internet girlfriend

[BellaAnimorum]

I voted undecided because I do not believe true love can exist through the internet. It is only what I feel, although with the many years of online experience I have witnessed many relationships bloom from the humble beginnings of a chatroom or other forms of online entertainment; however, for me I could not possibly feel real love for someone I could not touch (or hear, or smell... etc) Also for me I would need the reassurance of my signifcant other's presence.
When it comes to the internet, YOU NEVER KNOW, until you know.
Undecided because this is one of few subjects I enjoy being proved wrong.

EDIT: Spelling and added more thought to statement.

[tankofinsanity]

I voted undecided because I do not believe true love can exist through the internet. It is only what I feel, although with the many years of online experience I have witnessed many relationships bloom from the humble beginnings of a chatroom or other forms of online entertainment; however, for me I could not possibly feel real love for someon I could not touch (or hear, or smell... etc)
When it comes to the internet, YOU NEVER KNOW, until you know.
Undecided because this is one of few subjects I enjoy being proved wrong.

True love from internet is like getting a perm from lucky ball

seems like everyone is getting it on the first try, but you just cant get it, ever

you probably end up getting pots which only last you for only a week

you promise yourself never again, but in the end you find urself in the same sticky situation

you regret it after it fails

[bobalitos]

ROFL

analogies...


its like xenning, you never know unless you try! =]

[BellaAnimorum]

seems like everyone is getting it on the first try, but you just cant get it, ever

This makes me think of the many "social" relationships in this game, that seem to always last, but really are fronts, and in many cases the couple really don't like each other much...
Love is not to be expected, but discovered and cherished.

[comp4ssion]

Love is not to be expected, but discovered and cherished.

Can I get a hell yeah??

[dylanangel]

Moved to offtopic. Interesting

I wont vote nor comment ;)

[SawyerAshfire]

I would vote that yes, it is most definitely cheating. I dont understand how people can have an in game girlfriend and expect to have a real life one as well. People develop feelings and even if its suppose to all be a game it can turn into so much more than that. I don't know many girls who would start a realtionship willingly with someone they knew had a girlfriend/boyfriend in real life. Its not only a struggle for attention, but there are certain boundaries that obviously cannot be broken. Furthermore, what female isn't jealous when it comes to other women? Honestly...

Maybe I'm being biased because I myself was a victim to a guy who had a real life girlfriend that I didn't know about....

[tankofinsanity]

What about those who have 2 in-game GF/BF, but with different characters?

[opensunflowers]

Uh, if you're telling someone else you love them, it's cheating.
I can't even fathom how someone with a RL significant other can even make the conscious decision that it is okay to date someone else!

And, from my own personal experience, love on the internet...failz.
You don't fall in love with that person...you fall in love with who you think they are.

I voted yes. I know several people that have RL boyfriends...but also have in-game boyfriends...I just...can't figure out how thye think it's okay. >_<;

[meco16]

its okay but when in-game overpowers your relationship IRL its considered cheating. so i voted yes.. just my 2 cents.

Edit: the Truth will set both of you free. tell him/her that your relationship is just in-game and nothing more :)

[D-Styles]

undecided.....


really though... this is Uncharted Territory to me and i dont plan to explore it lol

[ashley88]

o.o....I think it's cheating. Real people with real feelings play those pixelated characters you see in the screen. In-game or real life, it's two-timing, no matter what reason you have. Just my 2 cents, I've seen people just get a "lover" in-game for the sake of grinding, like...a cleric and a knight for example, just some in-game fake love for whoever is deceiving who just for a personal duo o.<; Yet, the one deceived may really have true feelings for this other person o_o Love is complicated, and you shouldn't play around it for your own benefit o: So they have a fake in-game love for the sake of grinding and a lover in real life, wow much? How is it okay to have two relationships?! I'll have no idea. Ever. I've had friends that suffer these kinda things, and friends who have two relationships...but I wonder, I just wonder... >w<

This kinda thing is waaaay off of my charts. But I think it's pretty interesting. Bold opinion: It's cheating *clicks poll* xD

[aesono]

First before i say what i have to say i will say who i am and etcetera

My name is Tiffany i am 21 years old and i hail from america.
I am engaged to a lovely man named Cody.

,Ok lets look at this subject from a moral standpoint and a Factorial standpoint,This is not merely opinion i guarantee you this is Factorial for anyone with a HEART.

Lets explain why this is wrong in moral standpoints aswell as facts.
1-You are devoting your feelings,sympathy,care and emotion to another.
2-You fantasize about another woman who unlike a celebrity you can actually attain and it is not a far off goal.
3-There are two forms of cheating,Both are bad,However one is worse than the other. one form (Physicall,Kissing,sex,touching etc.) (Mental,Fantasizing of another,wanting to be with another,longing for another,feeling for another.)

Wich is worse? (Mental) mental cheating is far worse than physical,You must remember people have feelings as others said,And you must remember if you are shot your wounds can heal,But if somone breaks your heart,Remember,Physical wounds can heal,Not all psychological,Mental wounds can.

Why is mental worse?
You sit there talking to somone lustfully,xoxoxox hun,love u etc.,you fantasize of this person,You ENJOY talking to that person in a way that you would enjoy talking to a girlfriend/boyfriend in real life,You devote a piece of your heart and soul to careing for this person.And even if you do not feel the same way about this person online,This person may love you,And you may end up hurting them.Also if you do not think it is wrong,Try telling your real life girlfriend,And letting her watch,If you are nervous of this,Your mind is unconciously telling you it is wrong,Cause and effect.

As for my experience,I am engaged to a wonderful man i had met online two years ago,I moved him out here and we got engaged now we live together and we are happy as ever and working on children =),Abit of advice out there for people who get frustrated trying to find somone,Not everyone is ment to be with somone.Some people have different forms of love,Some women/men grow up and realise their true passion/love is a fulfilling career or an adopted child,Rather than a romantic relationship.

But for those seeking a relationship and love remember this.Do not torture those in your future for those in your past,if men/women have hurt you in the past,Realise that you should give every new person a clean slate,Have no reservations or doubts,Ofcourse this is the best way to get hurt,But if you have those reservations or doubt,You selfcontiously reserve care and love and trust,That may mislead you to believing this is love but is afterall lust.
So i implore all of you out there that have been hurt or frustrated,Give everyone 100% trust off the line(Not saying give them your credit card) saying.. trust them as you would a family member in the thought that,you will care unconditionally,trust untill proven otherwise and believe what they say untill proven otherwise.

If you do not trust them 100% have any reservations or doubts,I guarantee you your relationship will fail.
There is no such thing as achieving love,happyness withought puting yourself out there to get hurt.

Love is out there for those who seek it.However do not over exert yourself or frustrate yourself being to hasty to find it,So keep theese important rules in mind.

Trust untill proven otherwise.

And ,Fool me once,Shame on you,Fool me twice don't do it again,Fool me three times,shame on me.

(Also if you want my opinion on the subject and not facts or morality issues)
my straight opinion is,You flirt with another girl on a game while im with you in real life,Not only am i dumping you but if you live in the same house as me enjoy me deleting your account and throwing your computer out of the window.

Cheers

~Tiff

[Twilight_Wanderer]

This is an interesting topic, and I was wondering when someone would start a thread on this. So props to you man for having the guts to start this.

From what I've read so far and from personal experience, I'd really have to say I'm undecided on the matter as there may be underlying reasons that anyone would attempt to do something such as this.

Yes, I agree that having a real life boy/girlfriend and having an in-game boy/girlfriend should be something no person should ever do, as you're devoting feelings to BOTH of them and not drawing any lines whatsoever, or are so far past those lines they seem more like dots in the distance. This is never a good thing as it causes a very high level of stress on you who have these two caring people for you because you are keeping each of them a secret from one another causing it to eat away at you. The stresses this causes you are really quite unbearable and eventually, you'll slip up and most likely end up losing both of those people. You reap what you sow, as the old saying goes. So if you do this, own up to what you've done and pray to whoever it is you pray to that maybe ONE of those people you hurt may consider giving you a second chance.

As for the other side of this argument, some people do this because they do not have a real life companion and are doing what they feel is necessary to find that special someone, which, put simply, is "date." Yeah, they talk to various people and get to know them, so long as they don't utter out those three... incredibly infuriating words, imo, that most people throw around like some tennis ball back and forth across a tennis court. Then I can see why they would resort to having various people they are trying to get to know just a little bit better.

I am not saying I condone this sorta thing, nor do I say people should not do what they feel is necessary in order for them to try and find someone they an call their companion. All I'm saying is people will be people. They will do whatever is in their power to make themselves happy, even at the cost of someone else's happiness. Feelings may/will be tested, battered, and torn asunder, but what doesn't kill you makes you all the more wiser; and if you're lucky, JUST lucky enough to find someone in the vastness that is this planet, I highly implore you...

Never... do anything to lose them and make every single moment count.

Thanks for your time.

[bobalitos]

Wich is worse? (Mental) mental cheating is far worse than physical,You must remember people have feelings as others said,And you must remember if you are shot your wounds can heal,But if somone breaks your heart,Remember,Physical wounds can heal,Not all psychological,Mental wounds can.

Why is mental worse?
You sit there talking to somone lustfully,xoxoxox hun,love u etc.,you fantasize of this person,You ENJOY talking to that person in a way that you would enjoy talking to a girlfriend/boyfriend in real life,You devote a piece of your heart and soul to careing for this person.And even if you do not feel the same way about this person online,This person may love you,And you may end up hurting them.Also if you do not think it is wrong,Try telling your real life girlfriend,And letting her watch,If you are nervous of this,Your mind is unconciously telling you it is wrong,Cause and effect.





studies show that women would say that a emotional bonding of their man and another woman is taboo

while the men would say that the more physical bonding of their woman with another man is more taboo.


=]

and im not making this up =P

[Trashknight]

Reminds me of that article I read the other day...

It really depends since the OP doesn't specifically states what the relationship is, serious? roleplay? polygamy versus monogamy, among other things on the Internet and reality.

Boy as a friend or boyfriend?

I consider it split when it comes to cheating, could be what I have seen over time when people swap partners(another one we could add), quarell to the point of separation among others.

Cheating in my opinion can be when you put more 'real' emotional effort into the person you haven't met IRL, thus neglecting the one you live/meet occasionally when electricity shortage happens.

[SyneX]

omg, come on peeps. What is cheating?
Cheating is when u get in personal contact with some1 who isn't your gf. Like kissing and ... (every1 knows what i mean)
Do I cheat on my gf when I say: I love the community?
No, cuz love is great and we need it all. ;)

And if your rl gf dont mind of a virtual gf its all ok.
I asked my gf if she would care, cuz she dont want to play anymore. shes ok with that, as long as I spend more time with her than with the ing gf.

The first thing u should ask your rl gf is, if she mind. ;)
Dont say anything, that could b a problem afterwards.

But nvm. I got no ing gf atm xD

[tankofinsanity]

studies show that women would say that a emotional bonding of their man and another woman is taboo

while the men would say that the more physical bonding of their woman with another man is more taboo.


=]

and im not making this up =P

lol

I would consider an emotional affair of my girlfriend to be a form of cheating as well

or maybe it's just because I can easily become jealous and overprotective =]

I feel SOTS throw the word "love" around too easily

how can you say you "love" someone, if you dont know what he/she looks like, what their favorite colors are, what they sounds like, and possibly even what their name is?

if you love someone in SOTS, you really should get to know that person more

before the passion is gone and the other person has too much expectation for you, let that person know the real you and see if that person will accept.

[MORE1r]

this thread shall b deleted..!!!!!! t_t t_t ;,_;, ;,_;,
AND DANG... IT IS CHEATIN... SIGH

[SyneX]

o.O sup more?

It depends...
if your gf dont knows about it, yes.
if she knows, no.

o well, both need to know. That both dont get hurt...
Don't hurt a girl, not physical nor mental.

[Cynderelle]

this thread shall b deleted..!!!!!! t_t t_t ;,_;, ;,_;,
AND DANG... IT IS CHEATIN... SIGH

LOLLLLLLLL!!! Yes right here! :mad:

[SyneX]

From all players out there YOU need to write this LOL

[MORE1r]

o.O sup more?

It depends...
if your gf dont knows about it, yes.
if she knows, no.

o well, both need to know. That both dont get hurt...
Don't hurt a girl, not physical nor mental.


LOL DUDE WTHECK is she dunno then yes? LOL ***

[taintedl0ve]

I think my boyfriend and I tried having an "internet" relationship... but we liked each other too much from the begining. We ended up falling in love. I couldn't imagine being with anyone else now.

o.O sup more?

It depends...
if your gf dont knows about it, yes.
if she knows, no.

o well, both need to know. That both dont get hurt...
Don't hurt a girl, not physical nor mental.

I'm sorry but if a guy is WANTING an internet girlfriend when hes got one in his life that he can physically be with... something is wrong with that situation. I wouldn't want my boyfriend wanting to mentally be in another relationship and physically be with me...

[ashley88]

I feel SOTS throw the word "love" around too easily

how can you say you "love" someone, if you dont know what he/she looks like, what their favorite colors are, what they sounds like, and possibly even what their name is?

if you love someone in SOTS, you really should get to know that person more

before the passion is gone and the other person has too much expectation for you, let that person know the real you and see if that person will accept.


Oi~~~I have a friend that loved what you so called an "in-game" girlfriend so much, and she loved him so much back, despite the distance, they really became true lovers. Well, they were true lovers from the start >w> Everyone's different, some people think it's fake, some people consider it real. I consider it real. Because, whom you talk to on that cyber screen of yours IS a real person, no matter how you see it. So now these two lovers I just told you about has been sending "real" stuff to each other, they know each others names, likes and dislikes, whatever you call it. xD Don't mess with love.

[angelblackrose]

Sorry..too lazy to read all the posts before this, but in my opinion, real life and SoS life are two completely different planes of reality. Therefore, having a relationship in both planes isn't exactly cheating unless the person you're seeing in SoS aka alternate reality/fantasy expects an actual real life relationship. I know a lot of people have relationships in-game and want those relationships to transcend fantasy and make it into reality, but this would be no different than online dating where things could go severely wrong should fantasy and reality come together. I'd imagine as long as a person keeps reality separate from fantasy; as long as the person does not allow some illusion to compromise their life in reality, then having two relationships on those two different planes of reality isn't cheating really. What really matters is what the other person thinks. If two people in-game can agree to a relationship that doesn't transcend the realm of the game, then the life in reality and the life in an illusion should remain two separate worlds and everything's good and well. Whatever happens in-game stays in-game and whatever happens in real life doesn't affect the world of illusion. Should the two worlds ever connect...That's when the problems start. So..yeah...think I went overboard on this..(bored out of my mind...sitting in an Ethics lecture...one more hour to go T_T )don't mind me..*whistles*

[Polexia]

ummm.

im a bit intense over the subject. lol

i actually find it SICK to have a RL relationship and come to an online game and date.

like seriously, it disgusts meh lol

but anyways, I guess u nvr know with people. just like boys will be boys... people will be people. stuff u never imagine anyone can do, well, there's always a first to see.

peace!

[justin_2006]

i answered no to this poll but my opinion depends on alot of things :x

if, say for instance in SoS, u get married or have a little gf or bf for fun and not take it very seriously like "ooooh i wanna meet u in RL" or stuff like that then no, i dont really find it that harmful, i DO however find it weird if u have a gf or bf in RL and get on a game and have another but still i dont find it harmful.... i for one wouldnt get mad if i had a gf who had a bf on a game, unless she took it very seriously and the both of them sent each other pics and what not... then i would get upset... but if the two are just close "in-game" friends(not RL, not knowing each other in any kinda way) then i dont think it should be such an issue.... *oh and if u have a bf/gf in-game and ur RL bf/gf started to play, well then i think it would best for u to "break up" with them cuz ur bf/gf who just started playing could take offense to it, but still its not cheating >.> unless the two are saying "oooh i looove u i wanna meet u, blah blah blah*

i for one though would never get married in a game or anything like that... i personally find it weird, but only when the two are serious about it.... ><; and its rlly annoying when ppl shout "I NEED A BF(or gf)!!!"

[meco16]

i answered no to this poll but my opinion depends on alot of things :x

if, say for instance in SoS, u get married or have a little gf or bf for fun and not take it very seriously like "ooooh i wanna meet u in RL" or stuff like that then no, i dont really find it that harmful, i DO however find it weird if u have a gf or bf in RL and get on a game and have another but still i dont find it harmful.... i for one wouldnt get mad if i had a gf who had a bf on a game, unless she took it very seriously and the both of them sent each other pics and what not... then i would get upset... but if the two are just close "in-game" friends(not RL, not knowing each other in any kinda way) then i dont think it should be such an issue.... *oh and if u have a bf/gf in-game and ur RL bf/gf started to play, well then i think it would best for u to "break up" with them cuz ur bf/gf who just started playing could take offense to it, but still its not cheating >.> unless the two are saying "oooh i looove u i wanna meet u, blah blah blah*

i for one though would never get married in a game or anything like that... i personally find it weird, but only when the two are serious about it.... ><; and its rlly annoying when ppl shout "I NEED A BF(or gf)!!!"

I completely agree with you. +invi rep

[aesono]

I saw somone say earlier that his significant other said she would be fine with him having a in game girlfirend,Sorry to break it to you then she does not love you much lol,A person who truelly loves one another could not bare to see you with another person or being intimate with one physically or mentally,And if you do it behind her back,it's still just as bad,Remember us women have feelings too.Try respecting that.And as for those cheating women out there ,You make me look bad and i hate you lol


People can call it what they like,It's still cheating.If you wana tempt fate losing the IRL one or ING one thats up to you,But that is selfish to put either through that and your only going to hurt others

[TRXSTA]

@ the above poster: First of all, declaring your opinion as fact doesn't bode well for you if you're trying to be taken seriously. You say "us women" like you speak for women everywhere - and clearly, you cannot possibly... and do not. Who are you to declare what "true love" is? The "love" you describe is merely possessive desire. Jealousy and possessiveness does not equal love.

To any CL out there: go ahead and delete this or edit out the first two paragraphs. I just found it too frustratingly naive and hardheaded to ignore. I had to post.

On topic: I believe it to be cheating to have two - whether one in-game, one real life, two real life or two in-game, simply on principle. Regardless of how seriously you or the other person takes it in-game, regardless of whether the one in real life is aware or not... the act of telling more than one person you love them is, in my opinion, fundamentally and morally wrong.

[taintedl0ve]

@ the above poster: First of all, declaring your opinion as fact doesn't bode well for you if you're trying to be taken seriously. You say "us women" like you speak for women everywhere - and clearly, you cannot possibly... and do not. Who are you to declare what "true love" is? The "love" you describe is merely possessive desire. Jealousy and possessiveness does not equal love.

To any CL out there: go ahead and delete this or edit out the first two paragraphs. I just found it too frustratingly naive and hardheaded to ignore. I had to post.

On topic: I believe it to be cheating to have two - whether one in-game, one real life, two real life or two in-game, simply on principle. Regardless of how seriously you or the other person takes it in-game, regardless of whether the one in real life is aware or not... the act of telling more than one person you love them is, in my opinion, fundamentally and morally wrong.


Wilson you're my hero =) And always my second favorite. And I agree with you.

[PayCarebear]

Yeah, well, like the others have said, it's cheating any way you look at it.

Even if you don't have like a physical relationship or w/e you're cheating emotionally~ To be honest, you really can't love two people at the same time. You love one more than the other. And most likely one of the gfs/bfs will have a problem with your other relationship. o.o Or you might get tired of one and break someone's heart or something. @_@;

And some people never tell the other gf/bf so they end up lying to them. D;
No good can come of it. xD

It's a silly idea for greedy people~

[cinderella8013]

This question has no right or wrong answer. It all really depends on each person. I my self am happily married for 5 years to a guy i met online. I also have had an in game b/f. My husband knew of my in game b/f and had no problems with it. My in game b/f also had another in game g/f and i am best friends with her in game. I think as long as everyone knows that it is just in game that there is no rl relationship that can take place then all should be fine. Yes people get attached far to easily and you have to make sure that you do not allow all your time spent with in game b/f-g/f then there should be no problems with rl mate. it all depends on if the other person in your life is ok with you having an in game lover. As for me i am now single in game on account in game b/f has been MIA :) but who knows what may happen.

[Kaizee]

Its not cheating~
unless.. u started on thinkin the one in game :)
i mean.. thinkin of him/her in real life when ur with ur real bf/gf :)

[justin_2006]

I completely agree with you. +invi rep

lol invisi rep ;D

but anyway... i mean yeah morally its wrong to tell more than one person u love them *in a relationshippy sorta way* but unless ur not taking it serious(as well as the other person) then why on a game should it be so bad?? its just playing around.... i mean ok, if u dont kno the person in real life, never ever meet them, and dont say stuff about wanting to meet them or anything(u kno, NOT TAKING IT SERIOUSLY) then its not cheating.... thats like having a really good friend and saying OMG I LOVE U!! and then the other person ur in a relationship gets so mad about it -- thats called them being jealous and not u cheating on them...... and i personally dont think ppl should get so crazily angry or start all this stupid drama when someone breaks up with them or "cheats" on them in-game(unless it relates to real life in anyway)... its just a game... >..>

[taintedl0ve]

I just think you shouldn't be "with" more than one person. Period. Joking or not. If you have a gf/bf in rl, whyyyy on earth do you want a relationship in a game!? I just can't see wanting that, and it honestly sounds like a horrible idea to me. But this is just my opinion. Its hard for two people that are "pretending" to be in a relationship to not talk about things couples do. I myself just feel like it is very wrong.

[CyberPhoenixSlayer]

Hmmm, seriously! I really think having a virtual love and at the same time a rl love is cheating, why? Because peoples have feelings even in-game. Sometime, they can said something they might hurt the other emotionally without knowing the person irl on the game in question.

Unfortunatly, have a virtual love and become dependable of this love can become a big problem in rl if you have a rl love and you didn't care anymore about this love. I see also threads about quitting saying the reason like: ''I don't want to play anymore at this game because my virtual love have decided to go away from me or quiting the game for rl reasons.''

I say this reason is ridiculous, surely some will not have the same point of view as me, but there a time you must realize the difference beetwen virtual life and rl.

I will say yes for this thread, but...( :mad: <-not really but more shocked by the post) i really think you should have not done a thread with a poll like that! Sorry!

*Edit* Btw, that happen to someone in-game on my buddy list, but will not mention his/her name for respect for that person.

[tankofinsanity]

I will say yes for this thread, but...( :mad: <-not really but more shocked by the post) i really think you should have not done a thread with a poll like that! Sorry!


o.o what's wrong with the poll?

and thank you for those who play the devil's advocate and voice out why you voted no

and yes if there is a three way consensus, I do not see how it is cheating

However if in real life there is a three way consensus relationship, would that be consider cheating? o.o

something to think about

[justin_2006]

and yes if there is a three way consensus, I do not see how it is cheating

However if in real life there is a three way consensus relationship, would that be consider cheating? o.o

something to think about

technically if ur not having any physical relations with someone else ur not cheating... but morally ppl would consider it cheating.... and then most ppl get jealous about rl bf/gfs having an ingame bf/gf and get so jealous they just yell "CHEATING!!".... ><; to me its just a game... let ppl have innocent fun(unless its turning into something not so innocent).

[lini.]

well, i think it is cheating if you have 2 relationships at once (even if it is only a game)
as like others already said: those are real ppl behind those pixel ppl on your screen.
one of my close friends met her boyfriend like that. with the "relationship" you have feeling for this person and if not, you can't call it relationship. :/

[Kaizee]

well, i think it is cheating if you have 2 relationships at once (even if it is only a game)
as like others already said: those are real ppl behind those pixel ppl on your screen.
one of my close friends met her boyfriend like that. with the "relationship" you have feeling for this person and if not, you can't call it relationship. :/

True! some find true bf/gf in game.. but like someone else said.. a physical contact IS A TRUE cheating ^^ But actually others just say CHEATING this 2 timer (irl/ig) relationship... It depends on the person what he/she wanna do...

U cheat if: U take this too personally ^^ ignoring ur real bf/gf so if NOT.. then its not..

[ARNOTA]

hmm this topic is interesting lol. I would like to point out that we are playing a MMORPG emphasis on the Role Playing. Its in the name ppl omg.

[aesono]

technically if ur not having any physical relations with someone else ur not cheating... but morally ppl would consider it cheating.... and then most ppl get jealous about rl bf/gfs having an ingame bf/gf and get so jealous they just yell "CHEATING!!".... ><; to me its just a game... let ppl have innocent fun(unless its turning into something not so innocent).


Ask any woman,Mental cheating,The art of only talking or lusting after somone you want to be with more than who you are with is a worse form of cheating than physical because you are with somone and the whole time your relationship goes down hill because they want somone else more and you are in a relationship where things keep getting worse and you try to hold on and fix it but just waste your time and get heart broken,how is no physical not cheating? *deleted pr inappropriate*

Mental cheating is by far worse than physicall lol I'm not saying just men,my gender is just as guilty
,A persons heart being somewhere else while they are with you,Is Definitly Mental cheating (CHEATING)

[dylanangel]

I know you all have your opinions on things but keep them clean

[ARNOTA]

I know you all have your opinions on things but keep them clean

ty dylan i was wondering when i saw that how long it would take for that to be taken down. it was about 30 sec good job.

[aesono]

I know you all have your opinions on things but keep them clean

it is clean i used @#$#@ text,abuse ur power thats fine lol

[dylanangel]

Your text is in a way to run around our TOS of offensive language and doing that is also against our TOS. If you have to use @#$ to type then it doesn't belong on a gaming site where children can access it.

Refrain from posting in that type of manner.

[aesono]

Your text is in a way to run around our TOS of offensive language and doing that is also against our TOS. If you have to use @#$ to type then it doesn't belong on a gaming site where children can access it.

Refrain from posting in that type of manner.

Actually it wasnt a way around the tos,It wasnt any sort of word,It was for peopel to put their own words there and think of situations for themselves.Wich is NOT a breach of the TOS

[dylanangel]

We have a language filter for a reason. If you post in the word which if anyone read the sentence would understand the word to be placed there you wouldn't be able to post it. So you are not to place symbols in place of a word that would be offensive to not only children but adults as well.

This subject is not debatable. Try to post in a manner that will not evade the language filter already in place, or in the very least, post in a manner that does not require the knowledge or interest in understanding such words, for the safety of all the users.

Now back on topic please

[Ryokosha]

No reason to discuss this, if all partners know about each other and are okay with it it's not cheating no matter if both relationships are in real life or on the internet, but if you lie to one partner it's cheating.

Also I think internet relationships are stupid. Why go with someone you can't even cuddle, doesn't make any sense to me...
Seriously if my girlfriend would have an internet relationship I'd rather leave her because she doing something that stupid rather than because I feel cheated.

[surge13]

I personally voted no for the simple reason that i think relationships on a GAME are weird... weird probably isnt the word i want to use but i cant think of it lol. Why would i think about someone on a game in that way, someone whom I will most likely never meet in real life and someone who for all i know is a middle aged man lol. ex. One of my friends on the game constantly hits on "girls" in the game but i think out of like 20 girls only one has said "she" was a girl ROFL.
Anyways to get back on topic if u have a relationship in real life as long as u dont actually think of the person in the game in a bf/gf way its not cheating, but you should tell ur real life bf/gf about ur special "friend" online.
But thats just my opinion because i could never "LOVE" someone in that way in an online game. Im not saying that i would never "marry" someone online but that would be strictly as good friends.

[justin_2006]

Ask any woman,Mental cheating,The art of only talking or lusting after somone you want to be with more than who you are with is a worse form of cheating than physical because you are with somone and the whole time your relationship goes down hill because they want somone else more and you are in a relationship where things keep getting worse and you try to hold on and fix it but just waste your time and get heart broken,how is no physical not cheating? *deleted pr inappropriate*

Mental cheating is by far worse than physicall lol I'm not saying just men,my gender is just as guilty
,A persons heart being somewhere else while they are with you,Is Definitly Mental cheating (CHEATING)

first of all i said technically.... i didnt say "its the ONLY form of cheating".... and no mental cheating is in no way worse.... how is thinking worse than putting those thoughts into action?? thats like saying, well just thinking of murdering someone is worse than actually doing it... and dont say theyre different topics cuz they are related in that sense; someone thinking about cheating in ur words is worse than going out and actually doing it.... i dont find the logic in that.... of course some women/men would agree with u on that, but thats their own views.... not life facts.

and i still dont consider "mental cheating" an actual valid form of cheating... how would u prove something like this anyway? yes MORALLY it is wrong and i DONT think its right to think/obsess about someone while ur currently with someone, but in my opinion its not cheating until u put those thoughts into action... until then, u have not yet done the "act" of cheating....*please dont take this as a statement, please take it as my opinion ><;*

[aesono]

Straight from dictionary.com wich is a world wide SOURCE
for information such as websters dictionary.
Infidelity
1. marital disloyalty; adultery. (OHH??)
2. unfaithfulness; disloyalty. (OHH??)
3. lack of religious faith, esp. Christian faith.
4. a breach of trust or a disloyal act; transgression.(OHH??)

Flirting with another person how is that not breach of trust



Disloyalty
1. the quality of being disloyal; lack of loyalty; unfaithfulness. (OHH??)
2. violation of allegiance or duty, as to a government.
3. a disloyal act. (OHH??)

Flirting with another person how is that not lack of loyalty?

Ok Lets look up cheating.

Cheating
1. To deceive by trickery; swindle: cheated customers by overcharging them for purchases.
2. To deprive by trickery; defraud: cheated them of their land.
3. To mislead; fool: illusions that cheat the eye. (OHH??)
4. To elude; escape: cheat death.

To mislead,Fool illusions that cheat the eye,To flirt with other women/men
while telling your significant other you arent,How is that not cheating? ^^

Those who feel cheating is fine in any form,Please sign up for your weekly
jerry springer program,I look forward to seeing the dna test as to whos the babysmomma of da child :D

[justin_2006]

Straight from dictionary.com wich is a world wide SOURCE
for information such as websters dictionary.
Infidelity
1. marital disloyalty; adultery. (OHH??)
2. unfaithfulness; disloyalty. (OHH??)
3. lack of religious faith, esp. Christian faith.
4. a breach of trust or a disloyal act; transgression.(OHH??)

Flirting with another person how is that not breach of trust



Disloyalty
1. the quality of being disloyal; lack of loyalty; unfaithfulness. (OHH??)
2. violation of allegiance or duty, as to a government.
3. a disloyal act. (OHH??)

Flirting with another person how is that not lack of loyalty?

Ok Lets look up cheating.

Cheating
1. To deceive by trickery; swindle: cheated customers by overcharging them for purchases.
2. To deprive by trickery; defraud: cheated them of their land.
3. To mislead; fool: illusions that cheat the eye. (OHH??)
4. To elude; escape: cheat death.

To mislead,Fool illusions that cheat the eye,To flirt with other women/men
while telling your significant other you arent,How is that not cheating? ^^

Those who feel cheating is fine in any form,Please sign up for your weekly
jerry springer program,I look forward to seeing the dna test as to whos the babysmomma of da child :D

when i said i didnt consider "mental cheating"(still wondering wth that is) a form of cheating, i didnt mean flirting... flirting consists of PHYSICAL and verbal acts, u cant "mentally flirt" .....

anyway
back to what i was originally saying... okay if u want to get so serious about ur RL bf/gf having an "innocent"(OMFG INNOCENT NOT SOMETHING SERIOUS) bf/gf in-game and letting him or her kno that it means NOTHING that u just want to play around on a GAME and he or she is ok with it then its NOT CHEATING.... this was my original statement... i NEVER said that being disloyal, flirting with some other girl/boy while ur already going out with someone, etc. wasnt cheating... i was saying that it shouldnt be considered cheating if ur in-game and ur just PLAYING around... if ur taking it serious, THEN DUUUH ur NOT playing around... then DUUUH i DO consider that cheating...


*fyi: jerry springer is a fake show... studio personell "prep" the "actors" and tell them to get mad and give them suggestions as to what to say to make the episode "interesting".... basically that is the most bogus show*

[aesono]

when i said i didnt consider "mental cheating"(still wondering wth that is) a form of cheating, i didnt mean flirting... flirting consists of PHYSICAL and verbal acts, u cant "mentally flirt" .....

anyway
back to what i was originally saying... okay if u want to get so serious about ur RL bf/gf having an "innocent"(OMFG INNOCENT NOT SOMETHING SERIOUS) bf/gf in-game and letting him or her kno that it means NOTHING that u just want to play around on a GAME and he or she is ok with it then its NOT CHEATING.... this was my original statement... i NEVER said that being disloyal, flirting with some other girl/boy while ur already going out with someone, etc. was cheating... i was saying that it shouldnt be considered cheating if ur in-game and ur just PLAYING around... if ur taking it serious, THEN DUUUH ur NOT playing around... then DUUUH i DO consider that cheating...


*fyi: jerry springer is a fake show... studio personell "prep" the "actors" and tell them to get mad and give them suggestions as to what to say to make the episode "interesting".... basically that is the most bogus show*


yet such an entertaining show lol

[taintedl0ve]

I think she was referring the the whole idea of the show, and the theme of it... not its legitimacy.

[justin_2006]

I think she was referring the the whole idea of the show, and the theme of it... not its legitimacy.

i didnt say she was....

[masterkillerzzz]

We have a language filter for a reason. If you post in the word which if anyone read the sentence would understand the word to be placed there you wouldn't be able to post it. So you are not to place symbols in place of a word that would be offensive to not only children but adults as well.

This subject is not debatable. Try to post in a manner that will not evade the language filter already in place, or in the very least, post in a manner that does not require the knowledge or interest in understanding such words, for the safety of all the users.

Now back on topic please

you rule!!! dylanangle! keep those kids in line soon they will be mature just like you xD im not mature still and dude if u have a relationship in the game and in RL you better be carful and not let em find out or you be dead

[lini.]

well, i already posted a part of my opinion. now i want to say something else.
first: yeah it is cheating for me.
however, you can fall in love with someone in game because you get to know to the personality of the person you talk to/ play with etc. and that's even worse because you don't know how the person looks like and like/love the person because you like her/his personality and not ho the person looks like. so it there's no influence because of the appearance.
and if there is a mental connection between you i call it cheating because a realtionship is not only physical!!
and having a mental (and maybe physical) connection (and love and such) - this is what i call relationship. and if this is the case (even in a game) then it is like in real life, so it is cheating. i don't know how your gf/bf would react, if you would tell her/him you have such a connection to someone. but i think she/he wouldn't be very pleased. and it's the same if this is in game, because the pixel person on the screen is a real person playing this pixel thingy ;)

think about it.

[Brutus_]

let me put things this way ... the only person i would marry ingame , and strictly just out of fun , would be my real life girl .

i told some people this ingame marriage thing is pretty akward for me . i have entered in some discussions ( not in the bad way ) over this , but in the end , i may not understand , but i respect people .

and i also believe that if you are in love with someone , there is no room in your heart for another . at least for me it is . and i do consider this marriage thing some kind of cheating , may not be physical , but its emotional cheat .

[MORE1r]

Hmmm... It is cheatin... Tell u guys sumthin ive learned..! DONT PLAY WITH SUMONEs FEELINGS...!! U myt regret it in the end... But tho LIFE CONTINUES.. And SO U GOTTA MOVE ON... Like i Did... QUitted the game... xDD I miss this game... HOLLA...!!
*Talking as MARCO the BAD ONE USING MOREONER... LOL*

[Magdelena08]

i vote cheating.




~ Philomena :married in real life for 7 years to LewCfur

[masterroku]

Yes, its cheating, DUH!

[Nixxy]

IMO it depends. Because ive been in a situation like this before.

If in game a guy said to me "wanna be my girl?" and i said yes. And we werent serious and just cause we were close in game and id call him my man or whatever. Then i couldnt care less if he had a girlfriend in real life and it wouldnt be cheating.

But if I then started to develop feelings for him or him me and i started to tell him that i was starting to feel a connection for him in a deeper way and told him. Then i would expect him to have the decency to tell me he had a girlfriend in real life, because then it would be cheating.

So in summary, No if your just close in game and arent taking each other too seriously. Yes if things get more serious and you develop feelings for the other person.

(All this is my own opinion and im not speaking for anyone else.)

[alicina]

It depends really...if you just think of him as an in-game boyfriend and nothing serious and you have a boyfriend out of game, it's not really cheating. If you really life this in-game guy and you have a boyfriend, it's considered cheating but...all in all, I think it would be cheating.

[Lysarius]

Depends on what kind of in-game 'relationship' you're talking about. Serious one, yes cheating. Just messing around, no i don't think so. But i guess it depends on your real life partner. ._.

[Alma_Adhara2]

it depends, if the relationship in game is like: "hey i say ilove you to everyone but i dont feel a shyt" and both ppl are like this i dont think its cheating lol but if those ppl have feelings and care about each other above everything.. yeah i guess thats cheating ^^!



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[piano-island]

regardless of the circumstances its cheating, If youre going to be in a relationship that means all your affection and energy should be directed towards that one, and no one else. I can see that this question probably orignated from the young kids on this game who date but dont see the emotional significance of a relationship.

If we are saying these are serious relationships, and not the "gahh hormones i love you!!" relationships, it is cheating and very horrible.

If these are hormone-driven-young-love relationships, it isnt cheating, since they arent even real relationships.